No, just because you got turned down for a job does NOT mean it's sexism

 

Often we see posts from a woman who has missed out on a job. Rather than looking at skills, how things can be improved the inevitable conclusion is it's down to the mystical patriachy holding every woman back.

I have first hand experience of this. I remember applying for a job at a local shop, on Saturday, and being rejected being told that the shop were looking for a girl to work there instead of a boy.

When it's clearly stated like that, then you know, it was just sexism.

In my business people rarely want to take responsibilities for their actions. It's usually everyone else's fault than themselves, think "a bad worker often blames their tools" but on an industrial scale. People who are succeeding rarely blame anything else, when they are failing, then they sing like canaries.

Failure is good. It gives you a chance to grow, to look at what happened, to pivot and to improve. Blaming a mystical patriachy is a scape goat and robs the woman of a chance to look at what happened and to improve so they are better next time.

In my own business I had a female worker present an idea. It stank, it was awful. I asked her to change it but she defended her position. Then her lead backed her up and said it shouldn't be changed. I stopped arguing because it was a public forum. They were both crazy thinking what they were doing was acceptable.

The next day I had a complaint from HR that I had ignored the lady saying it shouldn't be changed and only backed down when a man said it shouldn't be changed. This was outright sexism. I was amazed the stinky idea was so obviously great the ONLY way it could not be seen is because of sexism.

I explained that a public discussion was not helpful and that the lead was an idiot and should really have known better. The idea was changed, it was much improved, and the outcome and response from it was better than it should have been.

There was no patriachy, no sexism, just a stinky idea that the female employee was wrong about. It turns out, her lead didn't understand what she was saying and when he saw the changed, better option, agreed it was better.

As Freud said, sometimes a cigar is only a cigar.

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